5 Quick & Easy Ways to Reduce Wedding Planning Stress

Wedding planning shouldn’t be that hard. 

It’s two people, two witnesses and a registrar getting together, saying a few words and signing a document.

That’s it.

You could do it in your lunch break. You could do it wearing pajamas and slippers, and it would only set you back around £120.

Everything else: the catering, the clothes, the DJ, the sweetie cart, the dove release, the cars, the flowers, the wedding breakfast, the hotel, the seating plans, the chair backs, the wedding favours, the rings, the photographer, the videographer, the toastmaster, the hog roast…that’s all you.

Why do we do it to ourselves?

Wedding planning shouldn’t be hard, but it is because we make it hard. And that’s fair enough. We all want that perfect celebration. 

For once in our regular lives, we want to be princes and princesses – we want to start married life off with a heart-pounding bang.

The problem is that it often comes with an acme tonnage of stress. Organising a birthday meal between friends can be stressful; planning a surprise weekend away can be stressful – organising a wedding

That’s something else.

It got us wondering if there is anything that can be done, anything cheap and quick, to calm the perfect storm of wedding planning?

When you’re worried that you’re about to go off the deep end, what can calm a stressed bride or groom-to-be down?

Put your phone down. More people than ever use their smartphones to plan their wedding. The problem is that you can’t walk away from wedding planning if it’s always in your pocket. 

There's always going to be something to look at, something you want and there'll always be something to buy. Try to keep your phone usage to a minimum or keep your wedding off your phone entirely. 

This follows on from point #1. It’s important to take time off from wedding planning. This is a Fight Club approach: don’t talk about your wedding, think about it or do anything about it for at least 24-hours

This might sound crazy but enjoy your engagement.

There’s so much more going on in the world than just your wedding. This would be a perfect opportunity to catch up with your friends – you know the ones who’ve been supporting you to find out what’s going on in their lives. 

The best way to solve a problem is often just to put some distance between you and it. If you take a break from wedding planning, then you'll become a more efficient problem solver. 

Bach’s Rescue Remedy has been popular since the 1920s. Based on 38 flower essences, it is popped straight onto the tongue or added to water and drunk and is used to reduce feelings of anxiety. 

Our blogger, Susan, tried it during the UK Blog Awards (in addition to self-medicating with Japanese beer…), and she believes it did make a difference in calming those pesky initial nerves. 

The bottle is small enough to fit into pockets and handbags and it’s inexpensive, too. We gave one bottle to a bride-to-be in the run-up to her wedding, so keep an eye out for a review coming soon. 

With so much white noise around us: 24-hour news, job stress, family commitments, the internet etc, sometimes we forget that we can just do nothing. Meditation is an amazing stress-buster, and it’s a key skill to learn if you’re feeling wound up or anxious and best of all? It’s free!

Find a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed. Concentrate on your breath and just breathe in and out with a clear mind. If thoughts pop up then acknowledge them but let them go.  The beauty of meditation is you can just exist in that moment. Whether you’ve got 5 minutes or 50, meditation is a superb way to manage your stress levels. 

A lot of wedding anxiety is caused by a feeling of being overwhelmed. By giving yourself the space to think, you'll find it easier to manage your planning. 

Marriage is between two people, so the wedding planning needs to involve both partners. If you're feeling anxious or overwhelmed then your first stop should be to talk to your partner. He/she is the one that is in the best position to help you. 

This is where gay couples have the advantage: they aren't burdened with the tradition of the wedding being the woman's domain alone.

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